Chapter 3: Title Alpa to -"Madam Ji"

Its again amazing part of my life , usually its my habit to give title to my all friends, i have given many names like Mr C, buri sangati, Chun mun,Athani chawani...Bhaagwan....,kalpati aatama,haryana roadways , Mamaji...etc etc..some of friends know about their name ... some are still not aware jab mera phone bajj jata hai..then their pet names boom in my mobile :) !!

U know what we always enjoy to make fun by calling our friends by different funny names....but how you feel when you are call my your friends by the name of "XYZ"...ek baar mann mein toh ata hai na -"beat him with wet shoes and then throw salt!!"

The same thing happened with me,When i met my best friend first time , I had introduced my self like this
 My friend -hey you madam...ur name???"
Me-"Chadha !! Alpa Chadha (Its style like Bond , James Bond)
He shocked and then looked at me....I smiled and then show some flirty fake attitude...and then said you can call me Alpa Only , Suddenly he said ...no Its "Madamji"
I asked -"Why so...why your are giving me this name...? I hate it..i would like to call by name of Alpa Chadha, Its really dynamic!! ha ha ha "

Well he was quite and at that time and i wanted to kill him with wet shoes...but i could not, becoz he was the only guy who can drop me at my destination.....

On my second meeting , i asked again the same question " why u have put this funny name?? Its just killing my personality..somewhat like UP wala type!!"

***Usually gals always prefer to call my sweet names which always upload their personality... either they have or not!! We always wanted to hear the same thing all the time..we are caring , understanding , innocent , mature and etc etc and out pet name should be like this only!!!***

He said " in my whole meeting , you are behaving like Madam, behave like mature gals, who always willing to give lecture on any topic with no words limit... who always behave like princess Diana..and etc etc..so Madam ji is the perfect name...."

Then i suddenly interrupted him and said " if u think i am just like that then i don't mind :)))  you can forever call me by this name !!! "

Well at that time i didn't wanted to let down myself....but internally i was feeling very bad and he was the first man...who had learnt me the lesson..kahete hain hai na "jaisa karte ho waisa bharte ho!! "

But now he is my best friend and always call me by this name and i njoy it...

Connection with god

Is there any thing which is called God? Is there any proof which is called God , is there any object which is truly form of god...?? Well all questions have same answer "NO".But still we(Except few who are not aliens but they are right at their end) believes GOD is always us and always connected with us , all the time.Either we are in worst condition or in the best condition.

My connection with god as Positive Energy. Whenever i feel bad or feel low ,only one thing behind me its GOD.Because my positive energy always push me to move ahead....i have faced many up and down in my life and still facing it , but my positive approach which is positive energy always around me always push me and say Alpa go ahead its part of life enjoy and live it.

I do prayer , becoz for me  its only the source of gaining positive thoughts.But there are many other ways to connect with god-Meditation,always thinks positive.....

Some times i think why people thinks God is nothing only science is feeding this world...They are not wrong , but they don't know science has one word Energy and it is energy which is neither created nor destroy....and energy gives us all invention, life and discoveries and one form of energy is positive energy which is GOD.

Its doesn't mean for GOD you have to go to temple or u have to do 10-11 hrs prayer daily , you can feel it anytime, anywhere ..even in disco , on your internet as GOOGLE DEVTA , or at toilet too....

Again my fav lines Life is very beautiful , live it with positive energy, you can feel god..Its true meaning of life. 

Chapter 2 Undefined Relation

Morning of the second day at college was very hectic; I was required to care of all administrative work along with the classes.


It was around 12:20 AM when I entered the class. All the students were present except for the gals…I was very surprised, so after taking the attendance I inquired about them..... One of the student (Ramadeep ...my fav) stood up and answered “ Mam, it’s the same reason but I won’t use say it with my mouth again….”. Hearing this, the whole class became quite.  I said -“No I got you, don’t worry I will take care of that“ and then started my lecture, I observed all the students were very week and were not interested in studying. They had different dreams and were following the wrong path….they didn’t know what they exactly wanted and what were they doing.So I decided that I won’t let them ruin their future, I would do something for them and would help them becoz I took them and their future as my responsibility. In the mean time I started sharing my real life experiences in my lecture and tried to involve all the students to participate, I never became complacent with strictness but still encouraged them and invited them to share their hobbies and personal problems with me. I wanted to win their trust

However there was one student in my class who was very introvert and quite, all the students used to tease him and used to make fun of him by calling him names. So I decided to help him. I called him one day and asked him to stay back after the lecture since I needed to talk to him personally….He nodded and went back. He came to me after the class.

I-said “What happened, why you are very quite u look very depressed, is there any problem with you…you can share with me…..may be I can help you…”

He was quite and tried to say, but again stopped himself…I didn’t want to force him. So I said….”If you are not comfortable then take your own time and come back only when you comfortable want to share with me. Just let know…I would be all ears…”

I noticed, he was feeling better after the meeting with me. May be its undefined relation that we have developed…

Then one day he approached me and said “mam I wanted to say something….but not in class….”

We went Bikanerwala , which was very near to my institute….

I ordered two shakes and kachori and then said…”yes what you wanted to share with me….

He started crying very badly and said  nothing …after 10 -15 minutes, he has shared his life ,about his family problems ….actually he had some problem in speaking becoz of this problem he was not able to share his thoughts and express himself….and always feel very shy and depressive…At that time I cant do any thing ..but I knew I can do one thing I can listen him…and encourage and support him which was the first help for him and I did it….

Its very tough job for me to gave him special attention in class , but I had manage becoz I knew if wont do it…I was not honest with my job…..

Now this Student is successful Software engineer in CMM level 5 company and I feel very much proud…. I don’t know its my hard work or his hardwork or fortune for his success but its something undefined day and undefined time which was the turning point of his life…..

Chapter 1 - Undefined Relation....

Some lines are complete but still incomplete...Some times we have relation without meaning , without name and with no future...its called undefined Relation !!

But actually this relation is complete for those who are in the relation becoz only they knows what is the value...and value not define the Relation, its only feel it.

I am sharing one story....of gal who has shared with me

Its 2005, Anamika completed her Graduation and looking for a job....she has so many dreams....good life...lot of money fame...lovingly life.....but she doesn't know life is not very easy ,easy to dream and achive.

Every day she feels today is last day of struggle and next day is her new day for new life....but she doesn't know that day is so far....But still she has hope and fighting and fighting with full hope and strong will power....and this is her fortune and god blessing....she is continuously facing new challenge...

Some times she succeed , but failed becoz of time , it was not favoring her....and One day she got one job after lot struggle....but its very below of her expectation , but she is happy...becoz "Something is better than nothing".

Today her first days in office,she entered in lift with positive energy...with lot of thoughts..."Ohh god....pls help....i hope i am looking good..i hope people are very gud...I hope I would work fine...ohh god why i m so nervous..why life is very slow..i wanna reach on time...(she is already reach on time, i mean before timings)"

Suddenly Lift stop at the middle floor....the environment is much like one man carrying his old VIP suitcase and looking at her...and giving her smile..One old lady of 40-45 age who is wearing south Indian Saree with chameli oil and flat floater busy in finding something which is very unimportant , but woman mostly do it in their free time..becoz their bags always full of  big bazaar store...and they forget where they have put the important things ;)..one small naughty boy is just behind her and staring ....then start reading the words of Anamika T-shirt(Its GUESS)..he said..mama its G U E S S...its ghusss(Hindi)....his mother suddenly Shout..bittu..stop..dont read it....Bittu is always Bittu..Bittu "no mamam pls tell me its Ghuss na!!"

At that i(Anamika) was very nervous but this scene has change my mood...i wanted to laugh cant laugh!!becoz other guys were looking at me...after few minutes..life has started again..and i reached at my floor....This is first phase of my life and here my life started.......

Just before entered the office, guard stop her…”Hey lady please entered your name and details.” He is hari Prasad …

Hari Prasad is 50 years old bihari Honest Servant of Manager, who is taking care of low to high level jobs. He is totally illiterate but still understand the English becoz his babuji (Manager) is his Mentor, God and everything  and disciples always listen their mentor and understand what he says, either it would  English or any south African language…..He is the personality who always think he is the only one man who is for this institute….he is IAS officer , he is Super man etc ……

His confidence like our lalu Prasad yadav becoz he is the one personality in our democratic city who always believes he can make Bihar like Paris and Biharis like most cultural human. Well its Lalu problem, bole toh hari Prasad problem …

I just entered my name and enter into the office. Office is not such very bad I have one separate cabin and outside I have some clerical staff, who were looking at me with lot of question in their mind.

One thing I experience in my mind, outside Delhi guys always have in their mind –“Delhi gals are WOW , Hot,Smart, Clever and Hi Fi kinda….mostly panjus boys/gals are just like that….So don’t trust on them and try to make difference.”

The same thing staff  was thinking about me, some guys were just khoye khoye….I was nervous but my face and body language was showing my confidence and attitude very high. I had to do this becoz I had to  manage this staff and the whole institute.

In my staff  I had two south Indian gal, one was very sweet innocent and hardworking(mostly I experience south Indian gals are very hardworking and low profile but they always scared of north Indian becoz they all have common thoughts about us  and mostly for panjus..people think panjus are special  and different type of aliens…!!! Well its their problem…

Other gal was just opposite to her, She thinks she is the only one Madam curie who can discover radioactivity, she also thinks her face and attitude match with Aishwaraya rai becoz her name is also Aishwarya!!

I heard one dialogue in Movie, its good to have confidence but its worst to have over confidence…so be confident but never be over confident!!

Then three male staff , one I have introduced and other guys are again special item, but I felt it was not tough to bear them after all I am Anamika Gupta !!

Its 9:30 AM , I had small cup of tea and gave introduction to all my staff and then look at the management details…..meanwhile there are lot noise coming from outside…I just stopped my work and call Hari-“hey hari –where are you?? Who are these guys why they are shouting and making noise.??

But I didn’t knew its tauheen of Dr Hari Prasad Bihari….becoz he is CM and etc etc….

He came ,look at me , wanted to say something but cant becoz it was  1^st day…he said “Madam jibachey hain.... Don’t need to worry I would handle them...you just do your work..”.. I feel his feeling and head his inner voice what he wanted!! He wanted to say…well I ignored and just  came out of office !!

Many sardar groups and Jaat tall boys (Its like they are regular GTM player) were standing  and they started just looking at me ..all were quite and shocked….!!(Becoz i was first lady teacher who was very young)

I –“ hey you guys why are making noise just go to the class and I am just coming…and please make discipline its Institute not Club”

They all  gave suspicious smile and just entered into their class in proper queue without revert back to me..All staff member looked at me then that innocent staff say..hey thanks I don’t know what they have seen in you otherwise no one can shout on them and they don’t take care of any staff..becoz all belongs to Minister family , businessman bigada hua bacha!!!

I was very much happy and my confidence is going in good direction and gave thank god!!!

After few minutes just entered into the class and suddenly some I heard one voice. its my welcome and an say welcome notes !!

This is the moment, I still feel and realized …..

Its one sardar ladies Voice “Oye aa gayi….bhaabhi”

I just looked back all were looking at their notebook which were totally blank, some were tying knot of their lasses. I thought its better to ignore them and behave I haven’t heard

I just introduced myself and new Central manager and faculty of Institute and asked them to introduce themselves. I was trying to make friendly attitude.

But Environment is very uneasy no one is interested and giving damn introduction, somehow I managed and start teaching them , all boys in the class . I have taken the attendance and the ask them where are gals , then one sardar stand up and said..” Ojji apne onnu Milan gayi hai ji”…

I just looked at him and said..hey use formal language its ur college!! and try to behave properly. please pass them my message be in college on time otherwise I will take an action .Sardar wanted to give me damn but he cant and sit down….i gave small lecture.

Its first day in college, but somehow I was feeling I have developed one relationship with these naughty, uncultured students…I have very positive feelings for them…..

This was the beginning of one undefined Relationship....

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