Missing my soul

Today i am missing something and wanna cry very badly and wanna hug my mom , my friend and my dad.Actually i am missing my dad alot.I remember one year back , at this time my dad was in hospital, he was suffering very badly , he was in pain and sadness..which i cannot express in words.He wanted to stay with us, wanna see me as Dr Alpa Chadha ...But Sab kuch khattam ho raha tha..we were trying our the best , i fought alot ..cried alot..destroy myself ...and i didn't want him to go away from us....But it was not in my control.

   On that day i realised , Nothing is control , Life is keep flowing and we have to accept the reality..But yaar its very difficult , I know how i am feeling right now.I wanna to talk to my dad , wanna show my happiness and success of career...my new western  dresses....my feelings and wanna share everything....but cannot do that.I am writing because i wanna diverge myself and to come to normal.

I miss my Christmas with dad(as we are angrezi dad-daughter)and i miss my jokes which we used to cracked for movies/TV shows and fashion TV.I miss my teasing words for mom...Me and my dad were used to do eye conversation for mom and cracked funny talks about our Naani(mother side) House-"Kamali da tabbar kaddi nahin sudhhar sakdda"...

I am feeling very lonely..i am missing warmness of my dad hug.he hold my hand and always say "Alpa Na kalpa"....

Today i wanna happy so planning to go out and have some daru and dance...lets c kya program banta hai...


Well i hope dad soul is fine and always with us....

Love u Dad!!

Choti si Love story....

Love in air....Now a days my room mate is in love and she shared her experience with me..I tried to give my love tips.(As you know I am born love guru).But this time I am failed....because this story has something different which is again very much common...it is a simple love story of elder woman with young boy!!

She is dating a guy who is very much young and chill kinda and she is freaky and mature person. I don't know its good or bad to have younger man in your life but one thing I know relation base  on mind and physical frequency level and what I feel they have both!!

Love doesn't bother your age gap , culture and other environmental factors. Well its all about rubbish ,old fashion and myth now!!

I asked her how can it possible you are in love with younger boy...U don't expect security and maturity ? Like he is 6-7 yrs younger to you..

She replied I am mature enough to handle him and somehow I miss fun part of my life which I fulfill with him. I wanna enjoy my early young days and he is the one who made my day by cracking college typo gud sense of humor jokes....kuch ajeeb laga...but then I deeply analyzed ...Its very true...and we all are working and our life is fading day by day , we need good break and miss fun days like college ..school ...

We highly need fun and cool life to work efficiently and moreover to be happy!!

She knows she is very much independent and responsible , so she doesn't expect these things from him and she also knows she can handle imbalance age gap and  this time she has given more importance to happiness and love and I don't think its bad...End of the day your happiness matter....

Now I have new definition of love......Just do unlimited masti and happiness....rest things will easily manage!! Well said. " True love is strong like anything!!"

Just flow into it.....don't give dam to any other tension...


 

100$ Coffee

Well its not story of around the world in 100$ , its some sweet experience of 100$ coffee..After long time i enjoyed time with few new friends....Did some funny and freaky talks....I am missing my friends from Delhi..My two anmol rattan Vinay and Varun..who are just like my heart beats...we used to crack dirty super jokes....leg pulling of Chepna...and group discussion about f*** topics...
I miss my get together party..before US trip...I miss every second of my gossiping ..I miss walk and long talk .....Breakfast with fat and oily food ....

Well I am really feeling good and better now.....I hope my rest days would be the same...

Confuse soul

Life is beautiful when you are clear and life is 'F' when your soul is confuse about you.I am in the phase of confusion.One month back i knew about my life goal and targets.Once i landed in US life , It starts changing and becoming more and more complicated and confused.

I can say i am completely confuse soul who has many things in mind and not able to decide and do it.Sometimes i think it is because of my US trip? or it's the matter of time or  the situation where i am living...

Again a big confusion.I am not able to find the right way and not able to decide even what is right or wrong.
I started hate myself now which is the worst part of my life..and i don't want to do it.I am trying to go back to old phase...where i was carefree..dam independent chill gal.everybody wants me !!

Well my sadist behaviour and confuse personality loosing me ....I want to come out ASAP...

Well Its works ...yes it works....during writing this blog i am feeling something different and hope i got the answer too.
Its my all about my feelings..from last 3 months i haven't written any article i haven't pour my mindset in words..

But buddy how come it hit me? It means in every human there is self mediation which helps him to overcome the confusion/depression/problem whatever name we want to give.May be my blog writing is doctor for me....

Soul is what ..its all your about your mind monitor..I think mind can't be die only body die..I remember when my dad was in hospital his body was almost dead but his mind "hat off" worked like young energetic smart man.I love my dad because of this attitude he was the man who knew what other's person feel and love.he  had clear soul for his kids.No confusion..

Well i learnt from life confusion is the biggest reason to mark yourself in danger , the day you get confused.. clear it otherwise it kills you and made you dead...all i can say it my real experience too.

Expression....impression...

Part 1:  Ms X is thinking about Mr Y

When i saw in his eyes...I am confused ....But I am sure ....I think I am confident ....But still I am in doubt... is it really ?? I am right ...should i ? No....way not again.....yaar ..OMG howz it Possible?

" Shayad its again hit my mind and heart...." yup its true man....

Now what to do??? I don't know....But how do i know what in his mind? He is really interested or he is again confused like me....

Let me take some time to decide..Meanwhile i should continue with my routine...But man it is disturbing me...I mean not exactly but still in every 5 mints ...I am collecting all memories...and relating and calculating....aray bhai...it is not Calculation or programming ..But why i am doing it....

Should i mail him ? Should i call him?? Nahin yaar sochega?? I am not very much smart enough to hide my interest....But yaar i would be lucky if it is really true.....Somehow i like him and wanna know him....But how...Should i ask my frd for tips....

Nahin yaar he is smart man...samaj jaayega and bhaav khaayega...Kya karu??? hmmmmmm

Should i upload new pics..may be he would show some interest / likes and all....hmm that's right and best way...

Yaar...It didn't work :((....Chod yaar shayad its not in my luck...But yaar i have seen in his eyes....he has given me all clue...

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Part 2 : Mr Y is thinking about Ms X

Hmmm....I love her ...I am sure she must...if she is not..then definitely she would say yes...

Let me ask..Joh hoga dekha jaayega,," hey...how  are you? I just want to take you to dinner...sometime this week ;) "

South Indian Weds Punjabi ;)

"Marriages are made in heaven which we solemnize on earth"....very well said...

In Punjabi we say "Paaji sanjog vadde daade honde haannn...koi na rok sakyaa do milan walaayan nu"

Today i am sharing hilarious experience of my cab mate.She is punjabi and got married with south Indian boy and i wonder how they managed both culture in such a beautiful way.Both of them are east and west but end of the day i can say " Love is really blind and true love can make impossible to possible ".

I know you guys heard only experience of Punjabi boy and south Indian gal .If gal is south Indian and boys is Punjabi somehow it manage. But here case is opposite and more complicated .Gal is Punjabi from Delhi and boy is Madrasi from chennai...i know i know he is tamil....as we consider all south indian as madrasi only ;)

South Indian are very much conservative as compare to our Delhi waale Punjabi. They are very well educated and sophisticated...But we delhiites are unexpected and in show off and boldness we can win GOLD Olympic medal.

Arvind is the name of my friend's husband. As usual in Indian culture boy's family always dominate and make their priority higher. His family decided first they would celebrate the marriage in south Indian style in Chennai with all south Indian traditional , It was two days ceremony , My freind Priyanka was feeling like she is in gold and silk whole market. All woman wore Silk Kanjivaram heavy Saree with 10 Kg Gold...its doesn't matter gold is 30K per 10 gm or 50K ....Its matter how much you cover your body with gold...Like bappi da....infact Bappi da ko tension ho jaaye !!

My friend is extremly extrovert , outspoken with very goodie goodie panjabi sense of humour , but there she has to control her feelings and keep her lips and mind sealed. But as u know our double character cannot hide for so long time....When she arrived at stage for garland ceremony all his Punjabi brothers start hooting..."Punjabiyan di ho gayi waah bhai waah and with glass of Soft drink only...no rum / wisky because they dont wanna make the situation risky ;)

Famous lines for our Punjabi's about the drink

Tere layi peg te peg banwa denda,
Tere layi Royal Stag de tabb bharwa denda,
kambaqth tusi taan pende nahi,
nahi taan Tajmahal nu ve theka banwa denda :D

Rest thing hasn't changed as it always happen at panjabi stage ...

1. Every male has 500 rupees note in between lips ;)

2. Long check design hanky at their neck (oldies ) and young boys wear tadak bhadak sherwaani....and long jutti like raja maharaja!!

3. Honey Singh Punjabi beats in their mind and hips, no background music but they moves their back like snake....Jaise ichadari nagin ne attack kar diya ho!!

4. All grand mother , chachi massi....wear long neck with highly visible neck line suits and sarees....., we prefer to maintain our transparency nature ;)))

5. Young chicks are showing off body like katrina kaif sheela ki jawani....and Young Bhai log always hunt for chikani chameli....but this time they were sad...No chinkani Chameli for Line baazi....

All of bhalla's , Chadha's Malhotra's were in control because it matter of " our Kuddi" , but she knew they cannot control it for longer duration....Suddenly one of cute sardan started the music in his IPhone( as you know all punjabi's are extremly rich in gagdets and cars)....

The song was " Tennu Ghoddi kiney chadayaaa bhutani ke" and every one was stunned and thank god except arvind no one able to understand its meaning and He has controlled the situation in smart way :)) .But Its really good luck...and good Punjabi choice....We have damaad(Son in Law) like Arvind

Well now the time for Punjabi style...." All is well and with some hell , But really i love this hell experience"

My friend's has to take phere in gurudawara, Its again in Indian timings at 12, but 2hrs late is standard way to reach at destination....Ladki waale danced like they were Ladkey waale and had big dance competition within family like Dance in dance reality show. All were drunk and danced like Minthun da , Govinda da Chanky pandey....

In Punjabi shaadi its doesn’t matter what is the lyrics of songs it matter only music is running in high volume..."Saadi raail gaddi aayi...., bhootani k....etc etc". As usual Punjabi shaadi don't take so much time in all ceremony because rather than tradition we are more interested in dance, drinks :) and photo shoots... Rinki pinki tinki all are wanted to look best , its doesn’t matter of size its matter of type.....;).

Some of south Indian relatives of Arvind were continuously dancing with confused and fused mind thought ...."Dance is traditional and mandatory custom in Punjabi's ". One of them said -"we won’t stop unless or until you won’t say it is finished ;)". Then we explained it was not the custom its Punjabiyan da style....

We all start with same step and same stanza.."Teri maa di...teri bahen di..." and oye hoye oye oye...and rail gaddi step...to hold kammar of all passengers ;)

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One thing ladki waale was missing...Non veg butter chicken...without chicken it was like "we are on fasting...". Ladke waale was Brahmin so Priyanka's family had to be adjust.....All were satisfied with Maa di daal tadke waali.It is National meal for all North Indian.....

Kher whatever is the culture, we all are happy and satisfied and finally both got married and living happy life....

Dream big but not bigger....

I know its very common statement " Health is the best Wealth" But now a days i am feeling its real meaning.I don't know when and at what stage people realized "so much money will kill you and and pleasant money will build you..."

I am living with this thought from last 2 years.I know my state of mind and living style which is quite different then normal person because at my age people got married and having a kids.But this all are unnatural and just excuses for you.If you have wife / Husband or Kids.i have my mom / dad to take care and my few needed friends to help.I know you must say we have also parents to take care.
Then i would say stamina is same, its depends how much your are distributed?? I am utilizing all my efforts for them and you have distributed the same efforts in all of them and i admit you are more burden then me but still i know its all about mind set.
The equation is same.So before reading my blog remove unbalance equation in between you and me.Then only you can understand my words and moral of writing!!

I am the gal who has seen many situation and experience so many things in last thirty years.I have learnt one word Satisfaction and Evaluation.These two words can change the state of mind and let you live life without any negative thoughts.A person who knows his requirements with satisfied attitude and who evaluates how to achieve it then only he can achieve pleasant in his life .

Every person has problem and with problem god gives you some pleasant which majorly people ignore because its very human nature we always distorted when problem hit us we never look at its positive side.I know i want to earn money to build house and live peaceful life , which is the first and last choice of every Human.But the problem will start from how big my house and what kinda facilities i would have because need can be in control but expectation is always out of control.

Well I asked question you know what you are and how much you are ? Focus in words what and how.This is the lower and upper limit of your mind.

If you know what is the your inner strength to win the situation and the maximum limit of your achievement then problem is solved.People are always two step ahead greedy.for example Rohit want to have 2 BHK flat for his life but his greediness and lack of satisfied behavior will force him to buy 3-4BHK flat and this step is the beginning of hell in his life. Now what he would do? he fights for onsite to earn more faster, or will do as much as much as work harder which would be beyond his limit .These steps will  make him short temper , high BP patient and uneasy etc etc...!!

In Every second of his life he is thinking of only money , double money and save money.What is meaning of life now?Its good to dream always big but not bigger!! Bigger always kill you.Evaluate yourself , distribute your life in all phases and see which is more pleasant. I am writing some high level now .You guys do sex in daily routine but one thing you do in sex is "comfortable and satisfaction".These are two main targets how make yourself  more comfortable and satisfied , The same you should apply in your life.Live life with more comfortable and in satisfaction!!
Anf for this you have to evaluate it.
See your life calculations

Phase 1: 20 years (age 20-25 ) you spend your time in studies and your parents provides you basic need and as best as they can.
Which is passed away, but learn don't expect high comfort zone from parents after all they are human and you would be at the same stage after some time and just think how you manage.

Phase 2: Next 20 years you do lot work like time machine.(Age 25-45)

Phase 3: next 15 years you suffer and look back what you have achieve.(50-65).

Where is the part of enjoyment in your life ? at what stage? No answer?? I know.

You answer should be "in all stages" but 90% people say " old age should be peaceful" why my dear?? are you sure you get chance to see phase 3?? 

I am not sure.What happened if you die at age of 37 yrs and what would be the meaning of 4 BHK flat??? or rest 15-20 lacs in your bank account?? You must say " This is for family".Common, this is good you are saving but what is the use of it? if you are not with them ? If you have take care of your life and you have enjoyed life with them as much you can then they would be more happier!!

I have seen many people who has earned money but not earned pleasant  and their family is more suffering...I don't want to live such kinda life.Life is very much beautiful and enjoy it.Set your targets and achieve it within your limits.

Dream big but not bigger....

Humari Kaamwaali

Today i am sharing  experience of our Kaamwaali . What i feel in India labor cost and attitude is rising like a corruption.When i look 10 yrs back and compare it to today's world there is huge difference.

 In fact sometimes we feel these guys are more dominating in our life.Our Parents need them not us.Without them we cannot take our day to day decision.They actually our need after food, Air, water and Sex. 

Our house maid name is Rajkumari,Like her name her attitude is just  like that.She needs actual attention.Apart from Salary they require National and Holy festival gifts.ya ya Included National festival.Like 15 August Kites, 2nd October either birthday cake or should have holiday and some hot and young chicks require 14th Feb gifts also. 

4 holidays per month are must for them , because we are working in MNC's and they are working for MNC guys , as per third law of thermodynamics , they are also working in MNC. 

One day i offer my Kaamwali all 1yr old kurtas and ask her to alter it according to her size, suddenly she replied "aray madam ji, main yeah Brand nahin dalti..."W" ka kuta hai toh  bata dena..."BIBA" ka toh rang kharab hota hai". I was shocked and look at her....How come she knws all brand and stuff quality!! 

This is not only one example, she has mobile better than me with all touch screen and loud music with latest songs , ring and caller tune....of Chinese model which are just like original Nokia and Samsung stuff and she does technical comparison with them and my knowledge bank is almost null as compare to them...i have no words to say and my situation is just like my manager is asking status of my project with all in and out of project release.... 

She has requirement of LCD or LED , no other stuff....I asked my MOM " who will take our old TV, which is 11 yrs old and still functioning very well??" and believe me still my old TV is lonely and i have no customer. 

RajKumari has two daughters and one son .Like TV serial or films moral education they don't want their kids to be well educated.They wanted their kid should work in better and posh areas so that their earning would better. 

They think its all waste of time and money, Working like maid is better than cracking IIM-ABCD exams.because they have Roti , Kapda and Makaan with all MNC facilities and believe me guys they have double income.My Kaamwaali have big lands in MP/UP and they are earning equivalent as here and best part is " They Don't need to pay taxes"!! 

In delhi every kaam waali hubby and lover is driver ,so they don't need to take tension of patrol and diesel price rises.For elctricity their jhuggi always have 24*7 electricity and unlimited water supply!! because they vote for corrupted Neta log and have 100% facility.

If i would calculate salary of one Kaamwali , you would be surprise.

Monthly salary from us -Rs 750.

working in 5 small house-750*5=3750

working 3 large house= 1000*3=3000

Monthly cloths, Two time food other accessories free.

Every month they used work overtime will get 1000 rs from each house

Monthly salary-3000+3750+1000=7750

Common Rickshaw wala earning = 10,000 to 12,000 rs per month.

Total income is 20, 000 rs per family of 5 kids.

Kids would have free school fees, Clothes, ration and with no electricity and water bills. Same they would earn from their home town which would be 6000-7000(Total would be 25-26k)

 

I am not Kidding frds...its just an example....think again doing IT jobs ;)

Dead Spirit to Good Spirit!!

Today i chatted with one of my good friend and i felt very bad, I realized its bad to have dead spirit in life , I have seen my dad when he lost all assets in business , he stopped work and became very much under confident and tension has killed him!! I know he has taken some wrong decision against my mom advice and us  , but it was not his fault , it was all about his destiny and one day i asked god "what should i do?" To make his spirit high ,What he wants i can not do and is there any alternative way?It was big deadlock situation , Either i have to adjust or kill myself or either he has to bear it...then something click on mind and i did something which made him little bit high spirit.

I can say, there is nothing which is not possible but everything is again not possible.My dad was real  gentleman he knew she wont do it so he has accepted what i did and start living it with good spirit.I know Hope always in his mind and heart but he is more practical then us.he never bother me and gave me full freedom to move on.

We have a very beautiful life and i believe god has done one mistake to create us and on other hand it is the best gift we have this life.Life is nothing it's just a coin and like a coin we have head and tail.

Both head and tail wont decide who is the winner , its our choice or selection which decides the winner!!

Failure is just a phase and success is just an opportunity.We have to decide how to grab it.I know its very much easy to say and hard to live.But believe me its my personal experience , I have gone thru this phase.More than success i have seen many failures.I am the gal who born with tears and now i am the gal who always believe gimme sadness and i will return happiness and my life is beautiful.

I am normal gal , Not supernova kinda, But i have learn t one thing its all our attitude to accept failure and feel success, i have seen many examples in my life who has everything but don't enjoy anything.I have something and enjoying everything....I know it sounds like i am boosting.but I am proud of it.

I believe  in astrology, I know its all about our destiny and no one can change it.But what i believe we are the person who can control its effect either it would be good or bad.

My friend is going thru very bad phase because of his professional career and somehow it is impacting his personal life and others life too.His life failure and down spirit are killing him daily but the question is "what he can do?"

I know bookish lectures  wont solve his problem...in fact no one can change his destiny...he doesn't have time to listen us, he is not happy to accept all our advice.

I know some stupid ways may be it would work out...but again everything in his hands only.

All i can say -"karam kar Phal paane ki ichaa na kar...." Life is beautiful and everyone has this phase... Enjoy it and never die your spirit of life, If something forcing you to go down just give simple pray and ask your soul "Are you ready?" Definitely answer would be yes !!  

Push all your problems and just stand up and open your arms and hug all happiness and say " thank you god, Life is river i wanna flow !! Good and Bad is just number games let me drive it....."

It would work believe me my friends...

Part 2: 6 Din ladka/Ladki in

Last time i have shared one of my male friend experience which was quite funny. somehow i realised Sometimes love gives you smile and beautiful feelings for whole life and some times tears for whole life...but one who is in love can only understand its real pain and beauty....

Few days back i met my very good friend , she is very much independent and practical gal and somehow she is very much reserved too to share her feelings, but pretend to be very much open minded...We are the best buddies and have great chemistry , we understand each other and share everything of our life

After long time , we planned to meet  and i was shocked..on that day...how come it possible with her? Its mistake?...No no...its true..My friend  truly in love with someone and even she is not realising that.....how much she is serious

For me Love is like spontaneous activity it happens, its move on...Its daily life activity.We do love and hate.As per my understanding when two person are in love it means they are habitual of each other and have good telly pathy...
Mental and Physical frequency match with each other...Somehow i believe its very hyper activity of your life which kill you ;)...

But she has given me something different feelings and when i asked her she gave me definition of love and as usual i got confuse because i don't prefer to love in my life and somehow i don't believe in stupid things...

She met a person in London and spend some official 7-8 days with him......I don't know what MBA guys do...bakar bakar...all bakwas....She said when i met him i had very neutral feeling and when i left London i don't realised i am in truly madly in love with him and even she doesn't know he loves her or not....

She said i tried Dilwale Dulhaniya wala funda,On last day i am in doubt and i asked god -if he really loves me ..he will turn.... ;)

I asked..."kya voh paltaaa??"(He turned?) She said -"YES" its big yes and her eyes are shining like stars and smile like blossom flower...and big hope in her heart and mind....

Maine socha i am not only filmi gal in this world , there few more still belive in yash raj film and obey him...by true heart...
I asked how its happened? Howz the guys ? HOt ;) Rich ;) macho man ;) intelligent ???...She simply say it doesn't matter !! Only Matter I love him and i wanna meet him once again(again Yash
  raj Film common dialog)

I laughed at her , after 30 yrs of your life u realising this stupid thing? Then she said...Love has no age ...its happen at any age anytime and anywhr....(Again and this time my ears were bleeding....)

I know its true....I remember when i was in class 2 , I was in love with my school teacher and in 11th i was in love with Rahul Dravid and still i think how come i remember these moments?

Its very much funny, she is in Bombay now and banda is in US somewhr and he doesn't know how much she likes him and love him....I know its one time attraction but what happened if she is really in love??
I think she must propose him...but i knw her she is quite reserved personality ..she wont do it....As per Asian galz Boy should propose which literally fuck my mind....i don't believe in this funda...

I gave her some of my filmi tips like -Add him FB first, ask for chat gtalk , chat etc etc..all chalbaaj steps to get Ladka IN ;)...

As per her Superb thoughts, If you really love someone , you have to wait and watch !! if your luck and Love together you would definately a winner....

Then i said ---GEETA says  one shalaok-"karam kar ..phaal paaney ki ichaa na kar"..I adviced her...Test yourself first and try to find person and then throw Mauka parr chauka...its doesn't matter who is proposing its matter both like each other and its matter you both have good luck to have true love in your lives....


The change i have noticed some common in her...which usually people do in love phase...

1. Always in smiling mode....and think and miss all the moments that she had spend with him...
2. Always Visit his FB account and notice all the new updates
3. Always in active mode in gtalk to chat with him
4. Listening only Love songs and sit quite....no interest in shopping(its big shock for me)
5. Start loving all Red , pink colors and somehow no tomboy and looks...
6. IT magazine replaces femina and beauty etc etc....
7. face is glowing and no presence of mind....


hell....But its nice one...she is in mode of Love....but I always do fun to observe such kinda of examples in my life....but i scared too , Love in beginning is very beautiful but if it doesn't succeed then it gives pain for whole life and very few will accept it!!

All i can say , Its very dangerous to have one sided love..Either do it or Die....don't move in to and fro motion...

Part 1: 6 din...ladka / Ladki in ;)

Today i was discussing with my friend about our college days and we came to the point..one thing hasn't changed yet....Proposal..still a man or woman (gal or boy)  spend lot of time to decide how to propose her/him...and still all basic funda are same :)

Love is blind and don't care...

My friend has shared some mast wala view with me:Don't mind my words...its direct from my frd heart and mind ;)

I asked him what kinda of gal u prefer??

As per his comments - "Still man thinks below the belt...a gal shud have good cooking skills for kitchen and bed both...for first one experience matter but for second knowledge matter...;)

i said -"How cheap you guys are?" still have the same mentality and virginity etc etc....he said yaar we cannot control our thoughts ....we are Asian man..its hard to change it....
i realised i should stop asking more details...otherwise i will start abusing them again...and i know they cannot be change....

Then i asked him how to propose the gal...

1. first Step: Search Gal in face book ,send Frd request...as per my friend...gal are very super bitch kinda...they wont accept the request easily...she takes at least 2 weeks to decide..i add him . i reject him i add him i reject him(100 times she thinks)....tab takk banda usey apni bahen bana le and kahe-" jaa marr bahen chod".. wait wait...we cannot do it....still man has some patience..kuch paane  liye kuch khona pdta hai...

2. Second step: Deeply analyse her pics....jasie X-ray karna ho....and will give some good sense of humour complements...gals always mad for it...and always check mutual frds...best for advice...Bhabhi banegi ya humari pahele se he bhabhi hai ;)- successs aret not always true
(we all do the same kinda comments...jasie all having some common account and book -"how to give complete to a gal")

3. If gal likes you....she def say thanks and welcome..and that means she is on the way to coffee house...
Now we have to decide...Straight road leni hai without red light or u turn hain...
If gal is working  then we always start discussion with official tasks and then mauka milte he Chauka..." can we go for a coffee?"

if gal is student direct ask for drop and pickup(cab diver),which she always prefer

if gal frank-" Let me check..will text you..(she is welli full week, but pretend she is more busy then Obama") One day she text you ok, meet me on dat day...sharp XX(yeah sharp..humare liye waiting time hota hai)
If Gal Shy-" hmmm phir kabhi...(she is taking time and showing bhaav, but still have Umeed ki kiran)
if gal normal-" lets plan smewhr..else...(she judge you first in 4-5 meetings and then decide)

saali koi ekdum se haan nahin karegi...aur jana sabko hoga...

4. Now tough time start- U must have good balance in phone, Full patrol, and lot of Deo's and roj nahana and ache banana padega...." gals always say...Money doesn't matter...looks doesn't matter...bt its matter and 100/100 aana chahaiye....

5. After spending 10-15K in patrol and telephone bills...one day you are lucky(actually most unluckiest days) have to decide....now on her B'day(saala yeh b'day...humara dead day hota hai)
i will propose her....wasie best frd ka b'day we dont remember because everyday we live with him....saala roh uske sath baith kar daru pita hai...us kya spacial ho gaya?? kya ....chod diya??...but jis din bandi ka b'day hoga-" we wait for 12 o clck and play guitar for her-" wahi stupid song-" aaj kal famous hai....na paani da rang...kinda....gals apni voice main- thanku thanku so much...kal party main aana...sharp at 7"

6. banda jata hai best brand ka shoes and Deo and clothes pahen kar....special do baar naha kar....(Coffee final he hogi).....Just enter the bar/pub/restaurant...hello...hug you....happy b'day to you...

bandi-" thanks buddy...aao tumko milwaati hun......he is my frd..hmmm frd nahin kahungi he is my life , soul ...babu teddy bear...and i getting marry on XX/XX/XXXX day...

and uske bad 6 din...Gun in....its fire....


Ha ha ha....But is not true always..akhir jiske sath kasam khayi hai barbad karne ki..usko bhi toh haan kaha hoga...will share that case in next blog

Why Chadha is very much Popular

History Of Chadha:

Indian (Panjab): Hindu (Khatri) and Sikh name based on the name of a clan in the Khatri community. Ramgarhia Sikhs also have a clan called Chadha.

But Mostly Chadha's famous as Lahori's , origin from Pakistan Panjab!!

Well its very respectable introduction of Chadha's.

Chadha's , surname is very much dynamic which always impress and attract Film/Tv producer director and script writer to include them in their movie...Just think Agar Chadha surname vicky Donar nahin hota, Movie ka hit hona not possible...Just imagine Chadha doctor replaces.....Gupta, kumar etc etc....

Vicky donor is not Just an example,there are many more movie which are super duper hit because of Chadha.

Everyone can make fun of using surname, But no one understand...only Chadha/i can protect your izzat.....!!

All Chadha's are good in health and wealth and always says- when our base was in Pakistan we had gold bricks , big bungalow and high position.....(Jitna lambi phenk sakte the...we do it.. who is going there to enquire about background lol ;) , well is general panjabi's nature all have same story)

but now a days we are in good in health and wealth has gone with partition...:((

We are trying to set our big name in bollywood....very soon we will earn our name HOLLYWOOD too., just imagine.....and hope in next 50 yrs we would setup new Wood which is called "CHADHAWOOD"

which is combination of masala and tadka.....

few lines....in my mind...about Chadha

East or  west...Chadha is the best....

kabhi khaaye Sunny paa ji da Dhai kilo da haath...

Kabhi lagaaye..nikamey munde nu..sahi kaam de saath....

baterey aaye baterey gaye....Chadhey humehsa humesha mukummaalal jahaan main baney rahe....

Hum hai respected chadha, jab kare koi humare liye gadha...kar usi ka hisab wahin....dhakka dekar chutta...

Deadloack mind

Mind is very complicated matrix, It always behaves like calculations and sometimes we wont resolve our problem and we lock in deadlock situation and not able to answer our queries.I have spent wonderful days in trek and got good change and memories book.

But from last night my mind is in deadlock situation, I am not able to answer myself.I am not able to decide or take final step.I am trying my level best to cope the problem ...but still something pulling me back and saying wait and watch....

Mind is moving in to fro position ...yes..it's real....no Its false its fake..Its one time...I don't know what would happened...at this situation i think we always miss the god and pray ohh god pls help me and do fast whatever you want...pass this time asap...

Sometimes too gud happening in your life will rise the problem ..which is happening with me...I always take life as time being ..sometimes its hard move some times its soft move...

I know it's complicated to understand and i can only resolve it....

This is call deadlock, because i cannot solve my mind matrix problem!! I know after some time when I'll look back and remind my problem..i would definitely laugh!! Its very common...You always laugh at your problems but not for pain...

Pain and Problem has one layer difference....Pain always remind your struggle and Problem always remind your immaturity !!

will write in detail next time.....

The Trek: Roopkund

After 3 days trek completion i am writing and collecting memories of roopkund trek.I was desperately waiting for this break, After dad i was very much low and loosing my inner happiness and inner confidence...But this trek has build me again and now coming back to normal state again....

I was excited for this tip and did my bagpack 1 week back and just waiting for tickets to be confirmed,,,,on 23 June 2012 its 6:30 PM,

Alpa :" hey poo just chk the status ....? Otherwise i wud call leave now"
Poorva -" Tu abhi chali...jaa(better you go now), U are already making so noise pollution....
I stared at her...poorva ok Ok let me chk...

Poorva "hey ur tickets are confirmed" .....This was the awesome time for me...i just looked at her and gave big hi fi and call my frd...and asked him to join the journey from Delhi...

I met group of Gujrati's in metro and shared the little introduction which was enough for them...because more than knowing personal things we all were interested to just reach the station ASAP as we were already late.....
Trip has some interested moments:

Part 1 : First time i had grp of Gujrati's, they are spl kinda creatures...what i feel Gujrati's always prefer to have same community..and have almost same set of mind.....These guys are great and very much funny ,i did lot of fun, crack non sense jokes and we were behaving we are all frds....

These guys are careless...weired and somehow take it easy...Not true frds but they have nice company , everyone can enjoy them...specially the way they speak gujrati in very much rude and funny way and as per delhi...Village style....
I used to share bad and dirty(potty) kinda jokes with them..and irritate them so badly....and i love it

Part2: Vango boys, Wow these guys are decent ,shy and innocent..i know No boys is innocent ....but while talking with them they used to shy and think...." Punjabi ladki kya bol gayi...very fast"
They are caring and adjusting , in starting i was in picture south Indian boys are very introvert....but i was wrong..unlike North Indian they takes time to open....but the best part they enjoyed the trip in pleasant way...


Part 3: Seniors Grp: I love them all, Spl one of the fastest runner...he is so dynamic and smart!!.another guys are oldies but still young and performing better than us...
I would like to go with them again...I have spent last two days with them...which was the awesome...somehow i realised i like mature company

I met some individual personality of Different groups hari and Suhasini who are really too good ...Suhasini is more adjustable then any other gal and hari is...real gentle man...

I had shared great memories , whcih i cananot share whole in this blog....

There are few tips for every trek, I am listing down all...

1. Don't make your single group, go and mix up with all...Don't depend on others..take life as full challenge and ready to face and solve your problems..in the worst condition ask others to help...

2. Do lot of exercise and maintain stamina...Don't be super dude...simple running and healthy diet is enough.

3. Must have good PR skills which is very much require in this trip....Don;t be rude and don;t be very much flexible....

4. please be with team..Don't try to be super woman/Man..Team work is very much important

Rest items and health care should follow ur trekkers instructions...

Respect of Stage Show

Today i watched the video of Madonna show off during her show in turkey...What the hell it was? What she  wanted to proof? I think she had more interest to  show her body and gain popularity rather than singing...and end of the day - She is HIT!! not because of her singing talent because of cheap step....I know i know you must be thinking its all about freedom, its doesn't matter...I simply asked one question if it is freedom why we fuck inside room why don't we do openly at public places...???

It doesn't matter its western culture or eastern thought level.Its just respect of musician which has lost and gave the negative appearance in public-ally.

Its totally abnormal activity! Govt must take some action against her cheap step so that this couldn't be repeat..otherwise we would lost respect of Stage.I heard govt has given her warning , but its not single example she did so many activity before also...a law should punish performer for it


Stage show is the fun , its motivate audience and give positive energy...its should have some censored boundary and a person who is performing must respect it.

Best Time Pass

yeah...Sometimes i think how to do TP ...usually my first line with word "BED" provoked guys to use unused dirty mind...don't worry this time i don't give u dam to think about *** dirty and funny things, there are lot of more things to do :)

1. Lying on bed at 45 degree and use your point finger(No dirty mind pleaseeeeee) and pick your unhygienic nose  ...its very much enjoyable moment!! No comparison and you can't imagine...you can spend more time in this pleasure TP rather than...anything ;) I will give this task 4.5/5
2. Siting task, You must have some reading material...but with some terms and conditions :), No sex material...Should be news paper like Punjab kesari, magazine like Mayapuri :) , Suspense novel manorma Kadhabani....Just imagine rather than TP its work for stomach infection patient!! Its not only save water(Don't Dho baaram baar...kar flush ek baar!!)...its make air pollution aur machaar marr jayenge Lolz....Must try once in a week!! will give rating 4/5
3. Standing task, Hmmm now you are smart.....you must be thinking about some non censored activity ...its must be economical....balcony main latak jaao and jhaakon dusaron k gharon main.... Somehow its wonderful Time Pass....njoying watching neighbors grah kalesh and relate urself...how we look wicked when at our side of boundary! I know its bad habit, but its very true all bad habit are good time pass and good habit is hobby and there is small difference in time pass and hobby...
4. use toothpick to clean.....teeth...no way....ears....nails....and same toothpick use for itching :))) ha ha ha...
5. FB yeah its again count in bad habit and full TP...i'll give it 5/5

some times i write and behave abnormally....but time always time pass is always abnormal activity which makes ur normal Life :))

Excitement of 23rd June 2012

I am desperately waiting for 23rd June 2012, On that day my project will go live without any defect which is very much important for my career and somehow its my favorite project, because i faced many challenges during this project.
The most important, My holiday plan which is pending from last 1 year....I really need it and wanna enjoy my holidays..without no phone call, no altu faltu gossip of office and So call Cab chick chick....with new friends and beautiful surrounding where i don't know anyone..no web, no rating no calls...

I know it would be adventurous one and the best part of my life....i have done all preparation, done lot of shopping and list down all the activities....Just waiting for my train confirmation....

I am feeling like...I am gonna meet Arjun Rampal...or going for my first date..I have lot of expectation.....ssssshhhhhh !!!!!I should control myself..because i am Chadha, Jab bhi koi plan karti hun usmain ek GADHA jarur ho jata....usually my frds comment on me.."chadha kar matt koi gadha!!"

Hope It would be the best ...One thing i miss my little Brother Chintu's b'day...i don't wanna wish him personally...just pray best wishes for him....and usko bhagwan kuch budhimaan bana de..he is very much emotional...and somehow mean and selfish...So God bless him some mind and maturity!!

Rest.....roopkund waalon be ready I am coming very soon ;)))

Uneasy Mind

"Sometimes our my mind is behaving very uneasy and unpredictable...It is happening with me from last 2 months...After dad , life has changed.Now the things are becoming more complicated.Mind is unburden , but its again uneasy because some sixth senses.. somehow i don't believe in future i believe future always in our mind control.Still having same dream and same vision again and again disturbing me...I am not ready to accept it.But i know it might be true....But why it would be true...I am doing it action in present , I am thinking about it...Even i don't have any single thought of it.But why i am seeing my death very clearly and know my date and timings?I am not ready to accept it...i know may be its my work pressure or somehow mental stress....
I bet this would not be happen anymore , I would control it..........."

Well after reading above line..I know u must be shocked about me and my mind set , Must be thinking the gal has gonna mad and going out of mind....yeah..any normal person would think like this only and every normal guy always thinks about his future , Money and LIFE...If everything is going fine in his life he always believe to live as long as he can...but if something went wrong he always thinks when i will get free?? But One most common thing he always talk to himself and connect himself with god...only when , when he is in trouble....but my dear frds when u are happy  then u connect with god?not when ur life is going good ..calm peace and happy!!

Uneasy mind always feed uneasy thoughts and easy thoughts are always straight.....but somehow uneasy mind must be one time part of life phases...and must strike in your life in every interval..

Tension of Project!!

Its 12:15 PM , i am not able to sleep.I am in tension of my project.Its not my nature to take unnecessary professionalism burden on my head, but still i don't know why i am in tension.This project matter lot for my career, I belong to good account and have very good reputation and this the biggest challenge of my career to make it succeed!! But some how due to some unavoidable circumstances my team is not working properly..i am corp orating lot with them , listening and understand their personal reason and all are behaving in very much immature way!!

Most senior person is behaving most irresponsible, Most trustworthy person behaving most untrustworthy....Rest normal guys are new they are just native !!I don't know how to handle them, it is happening first time in my career i am feeling so much helpless....I am feeling i have lost my PR skills and all...I know it is happening with everyone and its very much common but still it is very much unhealthy for me..i am thinking and thinking...i have spent my whole day to manage them but still ...........

If i would behave like Hitler TL then its again not good for my team...If i would behave like normal , i will loose the good opportunity and coolness of my nature is getting buzz!!

I am planning to get up earlier in the morning and reach office before normal time, I would try , tomorrow morning I manage them in little bit strict way....otherwise its not good for all of us...After all its responsibility!!

Now i am feeling, Its very tough to be manager and Its really uneasy job....Project and Responsibility is not easy task to handle....

y this kolevri D? Why this band D?

As usual, I am sharing my IT experience again. April month is famous for making April fool, but it is again famous making fool to more than 1 lac "jantu kantu parantu" yaani Software engineer....

This time i am not as such big sufferer but still i am suffer...because aapko agar khushi milti hai toh bhagwan gum dahej main jarur deta hai...i got it.....

kahete hain insaaaan ko apne gum se jada dukh dusaron ki khushi se hoti hai...but here ganda is flowing in wrong direction...I am suffering because other have poorer rating than me , and they are behaving like i have done the biggest crime!!

With respect to my hard and smart work i got lot of appreciation and good rating...but with respect to my rating...other guys definitely lie in low curve fitting...and this is not gud for my health!!

Kuch balak ache main curve main toh kuch burey main...bole toh Don ka D dekar unke bekar kar diya...aur unka kaam mujhe Don B bana kar mere ser daal diya!!...

Yeh achi baat hai we have to work hard and smart , but its again wrong to do....lot of hard and smart!!

I know i am writing very much pakau , but still wanna write... because why this 'D'?? Duniya bannaey waale tune 'D' kyon banaya? agar banaya toh ismain upaya kyon nahin bataya!!

'D' dusaron ko mila toh bhi main D for Dog bani
'B' Mujhe mila toh bhi main Dusaron ki nazaron main Bitch ban gayi...

Why this kolaveri D?? Why this kolaveri D??

calories vs natural resouces

Mirror…Mirror on the wall...Who is stupid in this world….we we we….yeah yeah….we are the most stupid creator…of this world….We have killed the sparrow, Migrated birds…ending natural resources….But why ….To have beautiful life with new experiment …but some how we have forgotten this is not advancement and an experiment.Its just Junnon…..and height of stupidity to close the doors of Life….
Alpa Chadha , Who is software engineer working as team lead in so call company, she has put on weight apprx 10 kgs weight and wanna back to her old figure , what she is doing? She can have dieting? She can join Power yoga ? She can join GYM…Better option she would join GYM, because it is the shortest path to have her goal .and she did it…But how she did it?
She drives daily 2 Km to go her hi fi GYM…do lot of heavy weight exercise and paying good fees to have fast results and after 6 months she achieved what she wants…..but what happened? Within 6 months she has destroyed many things….Don’t you think?

1. She drives car for 2 KM means she is not ending drop of natural resources, also waste the money….It can be better if she would walk for 2 Km or can have cycling which doesn’t require any patrol diesel or CNG!!She can save money....

2. She is going to Gym in the evening….that means she is missing her beautiful morning and her fresh air…Evening work out is nt as much effective as morning..

3. Losing her weight is motivating to next generation to join GYM, if she would loose this weight by walk and yoga then next generation cannot repeat this mistake again!!

GYM this is fool making room….aaj kal k londe wahann jaate hain….us tym parr jis tym parr kachi kaliyan aayin hon…aur unko apni body shody dikhaane ka bharpur moka mile…and Ladkiyan jaatin hain us tym parr jis samay no guys can watch their up down motions emotions;)

But the gals who have good figure are always at come freely...…well GYM, is the room where people can have eye tonic with licence…and can make flirting environment….
Our Teacher yaani coach, who are the x student of same GYM, are going very much happy now a days and they have great respect for SALLU bhaiya, because Bodyguard movie ne unhe life ki new direction di hai…now every GYM guy has life target to become Body guard!!
These coaches are much strong by body and their body strength is inversely proportional to square their mental level...This is very much important formula….

Kher khaamosh….What about Gym owner….except owner everyone are on right track to loose weight….Its 100 Poof owner have same body as halwai….because…because…..hmmm Cannot write here…its high level..some other tym :))
If we would follow healthy diet with little bit yoga..life is better track and can do saving for our future generation !! otherwise I would pray 21 Dec 2012 is better option…..We have no more stamina to bear our ending life pain…..Think about it guys!!

Broken Heart Viral

now a days one of my frd is suffering from "broken heart" Viral.I am trying to console her and suggesting some useful tips to recover from break off...Don't worry frds its nt new Jodi Breaker Nasha...its just simple sasti and better advice....I hope u don't mind it!!

I know after V-day its commonly happen with all categories couple....because har khushi k baad gum aur har gum k baad khushi....so after V-day lover day ek gum toh banta hai....and the best part we can wash out all tears and sadness in HOli...tabhi V-day always comes just before Holi ;) So be positive and optimistic!!

Well come to the point...
1. Don't:
break off k baad ka first Rule, Don't Listen old and slow break off songs joh sabse pahela step usually couple karte hai....and they imagine themselves in clouds as hero and Heroine and their so called parent/X man-woman as villain....

Do:
Listen panjabi tadka with one glass of Vodaka /Beer and lassi mil jaaye toh wah ji wah!!

2. Don't:
Usually log safed poshaak...na ajeeb dressing sense main aa jaate hain....which is very much irrittaing and terrible and somehow which is the Biggest hurdle for upcoming new opportunity in your life...pyar toh aisi cheej hai..ek aata toh dusara jata hai..aise he waqt kat jata hai....
Do:
so always maintain ur good looks and dressing sense

3 Don't:
Well apne ass pass walon ko log torturer karte hain..ect etc break off k reason and aur pyar bhare din ko yaad karke...agar samne wala really likes you ya toh voh apke naam ko dislike kar dega ya apki life ki wall se hath jayega...so u have think it again
Do:
Continue ur life with dirty talks and high level jokes.......make the environment chill as earlier....jaise u don't care about that damn ass hole

4 Don't:
baby don't be owl life!! Din mein sona and raat main rona...yukkkkk Its wastage of internet, electricity and figure aur kharab !!
Do:
Behave like white Horse..always active and running mode, chain so aur soney do....dont waste electricity raat bhar jag kar....

5 Don't:
Dont spend too much time in office...aap logon ki wagah se he dusaron ko bhi late stay karna padta hai...in logon ka break off ko bhulane ka tonic dusare couple ka break off ka reason banta hai..work 9-5 only!!
Do:
pls go some pubs/movie/hill stataion and have hip hop...with new guys and gal!!!

i Hope these are the simple steps and make you chill...forget about break off and looking for new opportunities...Life is very much beautiful because you made it!!

Fever Night

Its 2:45 AM, I am in heavy fever and nt able to sleep....just open the laptop and thinking about my day in office after 7 hrs....I really don't wanna go there...because i m very much tired and uneasy...but dependency of work will push me there....at seat no SF 2031(My Hot Seat)!!

Just thinking...."Kaash mujhe kal koi aaisi tijori mil jaaye jismain kuch maal rupaya paisa ho...aur koi tension na ho yeh sab kaamaane ki" But clouds on my head buzz another thought...what would be the motto of life ?? Problems and fight always make you chill and aspirant...But here i m thinking to close the doors of all these sucking fun!! Yeah its sucking and Fun both....combination of both would give meaningful life!!

So Alpa Stop thinking about all these shortcuts and thin abt your next !! Yeah..Yeah i knw u might me thinking i m gonn amad and fever on my head...yeah its on my head now...just waiting ...my eyes will close asap....but saali yeh nind nahin aati...i have one thing in my lfy...Life always against of normal..People do sleep in fever and i do sleep alot in normal days!!

I dont know why ?? But its always happens in life!

silence of scold

Its now more than 20 days, We are silence , we are not fighting , we are not shouting ..we are not crying and worrying ... everything is going with time without any delay, without any loss without any fight !! everything is just perfect but the one thing is missing which is not meaning to our life...I don't know what was that but when dad was with us we used to shout at him "Paapa yeh kyon nahin kia?? Yeh kyon nahin khaya? Yeh kyn gand failaya etc etc" Only one word was always buzzing at our Life and house..."PAA" !!

We were busy because of Dad , we were free because of dad, we were fighting because of dad and the best PART we were Happy and have meaning of life because of DAD only!! we had a bonding of love and frdship with him....he was lazy man and very much self concerned sometimes but still he had something which always made us alive!!

Today i was shouting at my mom and i scolded her so badly but it was the fake and smthing missing in our fight...i cudnt understand it at that time and i got irritated but now i am realizing its my dad support who used to fun of our fight and some times AAG main Ghee ka kaam karna!! I realized now we are living with silence and my life is Silence of scold.

I wish god please break this silence as much earlier ...its killing us , we all are hiding our pain with each other and could not express it because we don't wanna hurt each other...we are trying to be very much strong but some how we are not.God please give us strength to overcome asap.

Life is Beautiful: Dad i miss you

Life is Beautiful: Dad i miss you: Today is 24 Jan 2012, I am siting in office and thinking about me and my days with dad..it was an awesome time that i have spent with him......

Dad i miss you

Today is 24 Jan 2012, I am siting in office and thinking about me and my days with dad..it was an awesome time that i have spent with him....Sahi kahete hain log jab koi insaan jata hai tab uski value samaj main aati hai and i have realized this thing with the experience that happening with me now a days...My dad was very much cheerful person and pakka punjabi munda who always make his presence at everwhere....after dad the situation hasn't changed it's still remain the same, but feelings has changed now...We miss him in our decision and feel agar dad hote toh yeh decide karte yeh jawab dete!!

My dad was very much doting father because he lost his dad before his birth , he knew what is the value of Father in child's life.He has given best of his life...aur humesha humain treat kia like Chadha Sons.

I have the biggest question in my mind for GOD, why people are showing extra sympathy and love for us after his death?? Some didn't understand my dad and infact didn't care of him and respect him , but these day they are behaving like a holy cow and treating us they are the best for us.Why ?? Kya logon ko samaj nahin aata we don't need them, we know what is good what is bad..why they are faking ? where were they when my dad wanted them and really needed their help...

I know its all about duniya daari but i really hate it and wanna show them middle finger!!

I still have clips of my dad pain in my eyes, mind and his painful voice in my ears...and its killing me so badly!!I request you god please help my dad soul to sleep peaceful and give us strength to overcome all these hurdles...

I miss my dad and always have his eternal love and warm feelings with me..he was not very great man but HE WAS THE GREAT FATHER.He was the man who can set the example of BEST DAD.

Love you dad
You Alpa na Kalpa(appu)